I went to see The Best Man Holiday yesterday with my husband, one of his best friends and his bestie’s wife so it was a impromptu double date. This movie was a great sequel to The Best Man and it really hit home when it came to family, friendship and keeping god first. I personally was able to understand the dynamic of the friendships from where they started and how they have evolved over time. My husband and I have had some of the same friends since High School through college and they remain some of our best friends today. We’ve definitely grown up over time, started our families and moved away from each other but we’ve all still managed to keep in touch and maintain our relationships. I also love that within our circle of friends our children have created their own bonds and recognize their relationships with one another more like family rather than friends. I won’t spoil it for you if you haven’t seen the movie yet but, Some of my take aways from The Best Man Holiday are…
1.) NEVER take your friends or spouse for granted! We’re not guaranteed to wake up each day. We can be here today and gone tomorrow. One of my favorite quotes is LIVE every moment, LAUGH every day, and LOVE beyond words! Appreciate someone while they’re here, not when they’re gone!
2.) FORGIVE your friends and don’t harbor negative feelings if you truly love your friend and want that relationship to work. The best thing is communication when the anger has calmed a bit so that a civil conversation can take place and everyone can get their point across. No yelling and screaming, practice effective listening!
3.) People make MISTAKES, we’re not perfect! If you messed up, as long as you recognize what you did, learn from the mistake, take the other persons feelings into consideration and apologize… I think you can work on moving past the hurt! Oh… Don’t let it happen again! (I had to reiterate that) I know it’s easier said that done at times… Says the woman who holds grudges! O_o (I’m working on it though…)
4.) We EVOLVE daily! some people are more stubborn than others but, I can guarantee most of us aren’t the same people we were in High School, College, or even a few years ago. Events take place in our lives constantly that teach us lessons and we shouldn’t be labeled for something that is no longer relevant. People do change!
5.) It’s great for a circle of close friends to get together once or twice a year, maybe one event with kids and the other without (Couples Retreat) to have a staycation or vacation that serves as a REUNION of sorts annually. When is the last time you had a vacation or staycation with your spouse and friends without your kids?
6.) When you have a group of friends in the same setting everyone may not always get along. Your dealing with so many different personalities and people that have married into the circle or may in the future but, you TRY for the sake of your spouse to make the relationship work because it’s apparent that these people are like family and they’re not going anywhere! I think we’ve all been here! (Family & Friends can relate to that one I’m sure)
7.) At the end of the day it all boils down to LOVE & COMMUNICATION! Nothing is ever solved if we don’t talk about it, assume things and not get to the root of the issue. RESPECT other peoples morals and values. We are all different for a reason, we weren’t meant to be the same. Friends should always be there to support one another, no matter what!
If you haven’t seen The Best Man Holiday yet, I highly recommend it. You’ll get a whole new sense of appreciation for your friends and family. Also, if you really don’t know someone that well, take the extra time to get to know them before you get all judgmental. Besides… When your among friends, you should be in the no judgement zone. I can’t wait to see the follow up to Best Man Holiday!
Things that are important to me in my daily life are GOD, FAMILY (friends, honesty, loyalty), and CAREER! I’d love to know your thoughts on The Best Man Holiday and what’s important in your daily life. If you’ve seen The Best Man Holiday, what were some of your take aways? Ciao, Until Next time…