I’m a hypocrite and I know it, but I don’t care! In life you want what is best for your children. I know there are some things that I have done in my life that I don’t necessarily regret but, would have definitely done a little differently. So, let me give you a little back story…
I have an obsession with body art and can appreciate a tasteful tattoo. I even love when a tattoo tells a story. I’m sure there are many reasons people get tattoos and choose particular objects or themes to put on their body. I should know… I have TEN Tattoos right now! I told myself when I got to double digits I would stop but, I’m itching for another one. **le sigh** I got my first tattoo in my mid twenties, I’ve also had my fair share of body piercings. My tongue was pierced, my belly button was pierced and I had my ear cartilage pierced. I never pierced my nose or anywhere on my face. I always knew that I would need to be very careful with my piercings and tattoos for professional purposes. I have been very strategic in where I get a tattoo so they can all be covered up if necessary. I’ve been lucky to work with great organizations that didn’t have a very strict dress code or rules against body art and piercings. I know there is a time and place for everything so when I am in a business setting… I’m ALL business! This all being said my thought process on tattoos and body art is pretty relaxed EXCEPT WHEN IT COMES TO MY CHILDREN!!!!! I know… I know… I’m horrible! There’s nothing worse than having a debate with your children on why you don’t approve of a tattoo or piercing and your’re a walking, breathing canvas of art!
Last Spring for Spring Break I took the kids to Wilmington, North Carolina and we had a great weekend at the beach. When we went shopping in the Mall we noticed there was a tattoo shop and I made the joke that we should all get something done and have a bonding experience. Why did I say that?!?! Especially after my eighteen year old daughter had already been asking for a nose piercing and her seventeen year old brother wanted to pierce his eyebrow. Well, the sixteen year old had no desire to get anything pierced until they thought it would be a great sibling bonding experience, so at this point “MOM” gets kicked out the plan. It’s okay though… I had no plans to get anything pierced and I was unsure about what I wanted for my next tattoo. Well, I didn’t really have an issue with the piercings because I felt they were tasteful, small and they can be taken out. My daughter did get a nose piercing, My son pierced his eyebrow any my other daughter pierced her belly button. Mom = Me, did sign the consent forms for my sixteen and seventeen year old. My eighteen year old didn’t need consent and of course I paid $200 + dollars for all the piercings, ointment and care solutions for all. My husband had a fit, he didn’t think it was necessary and fussed me out. Side Note: He has a tattoo and ear piercings!
Recently my nineteen year old daughter expressed wanting a tattoo and I was against it! I thought that she should wait and be sure of what she wanted and where she would get it. I also kind of wanted to be there when she got it. Well, she is in her first year of college and lives on campus. So, she is growing in her independence and recently went with her friends to a tattoo shop grand opening party and they were giving complimentary tattoos. So, guess who decided to take advantage of that opportunity? I get a call and text AFTER the fact to let me know that she got a tattoo and it was small and tasteful. I immediately asked for a photo! It was small and she can cover it when necessary but, I was upset. It took me a few days to get over it. My daughter wants to get a Phoenix Tattoo next. We’ll see what happens. When my son was seventeen he convinced his grandfather to take him to get snake bites and that was a HUGE issue for our household. My son had asked me and his dad and we both said NO! I had an issue because it didn’t look tasteful to me and he was still in High School. I also thought about when he goes to find a job etc. He was so upset his dad asked him to remove them and said that we weren’t allowing him to express himself. While I don’t want to get in the way of my children’s self expression and want them to be who they are, I have to draw the line somewhere.
I also, don’t want them to just be judged on appearance. Which we all know is inevitable. We live in a judgmental society and most people are judged on appearance and first impressions. My son would look as though he fits into the skater boy category with the way he dresses and he does ride and carry his skateboard regularly. He’s your poster board skater boy! He is a great kid, loves music and is on the A/B Honor Roll at school. I don’t think you would gather that by his appearance though… and that’s a part of my issue! I honestly worry about my son, more than I do my daughter. He’s a young black male growing up in America. My daughter just got notification that she is receiving an award from her University for Scholastic Achievement for Spring/Fall 2015 Semester. I am attending the Convocation Ceremony next month. She also made the Provost’s List. I’m so proud of my babies! So, can I get a pass on my hypocrisy when it comes to my children? How do you feel about body art and piercings? Would you be cool with your teenager getting a piercing or tattoo? My eight year old doesn’t want any piercings at the moment but, he does want to dye his hair Blue! Lol! **Feel free to check out my related post on my Ambigram Tattoo. **