The moment I received my copy of Iâ€™m Judging You the Do-Better Manual by Luvvie Ajayi I knew I was in for some real talk and gut wrenching belly laughs. I jumped right in and started reading it while I was at the pool with mini me. Even though I knew I was guaranteed a good laugh, I wasnâ€™t prepared for the frequent outbursts of laughter in public places. I have a habit reading while I waitâ€¦ I read poolside in a lounge chair, on the carpool line, doctorâ€™s office waiting area and in my office while waiting for a meeting to start. Iâ€™ll read at any moment I have some down time while Iâ€™m justâ€¦ WAITING!
Iâ€™m Judging You the Do-Better Manual is broken into four parts; Life, Culture, Social Media and Fame. If I had to pick a favorite part, I would say Life and Social Media were my two favorite parts. I wonâ€™t give much away but, I think we can all relate to some of the scenarios when she talks about life. I had to stop and re-evaluate my situation after reading it from who my â€œREALâ€ friends are to looking at the different types of people I associate myself with and which category they fell into. I also had to see where I fit in the equation and judge myself on the type of person I am. Itâ€™s crucial, self-reflection is a beast!
Please empty your bladder of all liquid contents when you read â€œWhen Baehood Goes Badâ€. I couldnâ€™t contain my laughter as hard as I tried when I read that chapter. Then I had to pause and think about my life and ask myself if I fall into any of these characteristics. Likeâ€¦ Am I that one friend?!?! If nothing else Luvvie brings up uncomfortable situations and topics in a humorous way and we all get the message. I admire her passion for social justice and bringing these issues to light. She’s transparent in sharing her story and experiences. Iâ€™m not Nigerian but, I know I have a punctuality problem. Lol! Hands Down! Iâ€™m notoriously late for everything to the point I try not to schedule exact times. Iâ€™ll give a window time period. Iâ€™m horrible!
There were so many relatable topics that I associated myself with like the mispronunciation of my name. My mom chose my name out of an African Naming book. Itâ€™s from Zimbabwe, is Swahili and means â€œGive Thanksâ€ Iâ€™ve shortened it in my adulthood because I got pissed off when people would butcher it. So, I go by Jen and people 99 times out of 100 think its short for Jennifer. Iâ€™ve said repeatedly, my name isnâ€™t Jennifer but I still get called Jennifer and get emails addressed to me the same way. Fun Fact: The last three letters in Luvvieâ€™s Last name are the last three letters in my first name. I know the mispronunciation struggle all too well! Ohâ€¦ Iâ€™m also a resident grudge holder! I think Luvvie and I are kindred spirits. I’m definitely a work in progress, it takes time!
Overall, Iâ€™m Judging You the Do-Better Manual brings up relevant topics on race, religion, sexuality, politics and culture. I donâ€™t usually engage in controversial topics in-person or online because I donâ€™t feel like having to justify why I feel the way I do. I also can respect the fact that all people are entitled to their own opinions. I can also agree to disagree and walk away. There are not many people that will do that. They want to argue you to their way of thinking and I donâ€™t have time for that! This book is an eye opener and allows you to have conversations that matter. If you donâ€™t have this book, you need to go out and get it ASAP! Iâ€™m going to throw major shade and give you the side eye if you donâ€™t. Iâ€™m Judging you!
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