It`s best 2 wait 4 the one you want/need than 2 settle for the one that`s obviously “not for you”… Best 2 open your Eyes & Ears to Look & Listen out 4 the one who truly loves you… Best 2 wait 4 the right one because life`s too long to be miserable forever…
An African proverb states this disclaimer, “Before you get married, keep both eyes open and after you marry, close one eye…” Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don`t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open and don`t fool yourself into thinking that you can change someone or that what you see as faults are not really that important… If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you have got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you…
You can`t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can`t make someone love you or make someone stay. “The demand to be loved is the greatest of all arrogant presumptions.Why? Because Love is not a forced emotion, for when force is applied, Love suffocates in bondage.” If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment and “A Life” you won`t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
COMMUNICATION , Good Creative Intimacy (One of The Guidelines I like most…LOL) A sense of humor, Some getaway time (without work/children), Daily Exchanges (meal, shared activity, Hugs, a call, a touch, a note), Sharing common goals, interests, Giving each other space 2 grow without feeling insecure, Giving each other a sense of belonging. MOST IMPORTANT: GOD Spirituality has to be at the center of any Relationship to sustain it… If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain will replace the passion. Remember that there will be Growing Pains. “Relationships are just like photos; you must go through the Negatives to Develop.” “Relationships/People are like Tea bags… you have to put some Hot Water (Real Life situations) to them to see what they really consist of…” Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishing.
The Bottom line is this. There is an old saying that : “If you don’t make time for exercise, you’ll have to make time for illness”. Well, if you don’t make time for that “Creative Love & Intimacy”, you’ll have to make time for stress, frustration, disappointment, and possibly loneliness if your partner decides to satisfy his/her needs elsewhere. Whatever you and your partner do to enhance your relationship/intimacy, you need to do it together, because you are only as good as the lover lying beside you, and Reciprocity is Everything. Humility Before Honor! Where love rules, there is no ego; and where ego predominates, there love is lacking. The one is always the shadow of the other.
For there is one thing I can safely say: “Those that are bound by love must agree if they are to keep company long. Love will not be constrained by force; when force comes, the God attribute of Love beats his wings at once, flies away, bids farewell, and is Gone with the wind! Love is as free as any spirit; Real Women naturally desire liberty, not being constrained like slaves; Real Men likewise, if Truth Be Told!””
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that your subconscious mind has built up against it.””
The Highest State of Human Love is The Unity of One Soul within more than One Body”, “Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other, Each Is The Other”… So Know… Whoso That Truly Loves, Believes the Impossible!
With all that being said… Do an honest evaluation of your own relationship & Keep that One Eye Open!
In The Spirit of TRUTH,
YIDIEL Pronounced (YIDDY-EL) Manngrum