It’s no secret that I was a teen mom and even though I am an authority figure in my children’s lives my eighteen year old daughter feels incredibly comfortable talking to me about anything. I was pregnant at sixteen and had her my senior year in high school at seventeen. In many ways we did grow up together and do have a very close relationship. She turned eighteen this past summer and is getting ready to head off to college at the end of her senior year in June 15’. I have a full library in my home and am always adding to it. I will admit that I am a Zane Fan and have a collection of most of her books. I have never allowed my daughter to read erotica and now Zane has released Addicted on screen and my daughter is planning to see it but would like to read the book first. So, she asks me today… “Mom, am I still not allowed to read Zane books?” I just looked at her with a blank stare! In my mind I was thinking, I can’t believe she asked me that and then on the other hand, I can’t believe she hasn’t snuck it off the shelf and read it already. Lol! She is currently reading Fifty Shades of Grey at the recommendation of some of her girlfriends. I still haven’t even read that series!
I know my daughter is eighteen and at the end of the day she doesn’t need my parental consent to go and see Addicted. She will go with her friends if she wants to however there is just something in me that feels so funny about my daughter wanting to read an erotic book and go see the movie it is based on. She also did ask me if I would mind if she saw Addicted with some of her friends. So, in a sense she does still have the respect to ask and see what my reaction will be but, it caught me off guard. I may have even blushed a little during our conversation, you know I portray to be such a prude! Ha! I actually have been looking forward to the release of Addicted and plan to see it myself. I won’t be going to see it with my daughter though… I’ll let her and her friends have that movie experience. I think I have educated her well enough on sex I just didn’t speak on anything provocative and in a sense have somewhat sheltered her a bit. I know she is a young adult who will be on her own and making her own decisions soon. I guess it’s still nice that she abides by our rules while she is still under our roof even though the rebellious teenager comes out once in awhile.
I wonder what her dad would think about what she asked me, because you know she didn’t go to him. So, if your teenager daughter or son came to you and wanted to read your erotica novel, romance novel or romantic fictional book and asked… What would you say? What do you think your first initial reaction would be? What if there was a movie released based on the book, would you allow your teenager to see it? Would you go see it with them or let them go with their peers? I’m still kind of shocked that she asked me but, it’s more so I was caught off guard because we do have a really good relationship and she can come to me with ANYTHING! Addicted is 2 hours and fifteen minutes long, it has a start studded cast so I don’t mind! It’s a Drama/Thriller and opened in select theaters on Thursday October 9th, 2014 and nationwide Friday October 10th, 2014. Are you planning to see Addicted? #MomOfTeens #TeenMom #AddictedTheMovie
This is a tough one as I have a 10 and 12 year old and I used the word orgasmic and my son shrieked and had this look on his face like, “You’ve said a lot around here, but not that!” LOL. I have no shame with talking openly with my kids about life, as the world is so real with so real issues.
Since she is 18, and going to college I think it is fair to allow her to read the book (hey, she’s reading, right?) and go to see the movie with her friends. But, I must say that my first reaction would be, “You’re a baby!” type of look and response until I realize She’s a big girl now.
Nonetheless, I must confess that I have never read a Zane book or the Fifty Shades series. Wanna know why, because I don’t wanna read about it but be about it. LMBO and my hubby appreciates that!
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Ha! I guess it is good that she’s reading. As for you not reading the Zane books, I totally get it! I actually got to meet Zane at a Barnes & Noble meet and greet when “Dear G Spot” came out and she personally signed it to me and my husband. I did read that book with him though. Lol!
First of all I didn’t know Zane was a female lol. If your dauther red 50 shades which I have, then she can definitely go see Addicted. It can’t be much different than 50 shades let alone the soft porn that Zane creates on cable. I think at 18 she is mature enough to understand what she will be watching because the world is so much different now than it was when we were 18. Even regular tv pushes the card on sexulaity. I think it’s awesome that she asked you. Maybe she asked to see the shock factor on your face or just to really hear your honest opinion. Let her go see it mom. it’s one of those ones that I’d rather not see with my 19 year old but heck there’s tons of movies that I’ve watched with her that have had some shocking scenes that I wasn’t expecting and she had no reaction so I played it cool. Hope this helps 🙂
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I have read every book that Zane has ever written. Princess is now 18 years old and sadly I can say that at 18 I wasn’t innocent by any means. Let the child read the book and see the movie…it’s great that she came to ask your permission and the fact that she hasn’t snuck and read one of your books is amazing!!!!! I was a nosy child that book would have been missing for at least two days!
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I luckily don’t have girls, but two boys, 10 and 4. My best friend had a daughter at 17 and I consider myself “Aunt Margaux” as I have known her for her entire life. She is in her freshman year of high school and so far is a pretty good kid. There have been some guys that she has had to intervene with on social media, but other than that she is pretty open with her mom. My mother wasn’t around much when I was a teen, which resulted in me “learning on the streets”. You don’t want that! I would let her read it, especially since she’s already reading 50 shades. Just let her know if she has any questions about any content in the books that she should come to you. I would have loved to have had a close, honest, open relationship with my mom! Good luck!
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I think it says good things about your relationship with her that she asked you. Thinking back to my behavior at that age, it was not respectful! Now as a mother I’m always glad to hear that it doesn’t have to be that way,
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50 Shades is quite descriptive to say the least. I am dreading my daughter growing up.
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I think you should be so proud that she came to you and that she is comfortable enough to talk about these things with you. I am very close with my mom and always have been. She told me those conversations can be tough to have but that in the end it means she trusts your opinion. That is a big thing for kids her age! Also if she is reading 50 shades, I have read all 3, trust me she can handle anything Addicted can throw at her 😉
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I’m really impressed with the respect your daughter has for you. At age 18, I wasn’t asking my mom’s permission for anything like that! I think 18 is definitely mature enough to handle that but, like you, I wouldn’t want to sit and watch it with her – too uncomfortable!
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It’s really wonderful that she came and asked you. I would say it’s much better to read about it than do that at this age, lol. My daughter is 15. I’m not sure when I’ll be ready for her to ask to do something like that.
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I had Harlequin books (and even a subscription!) when I was in high school. I remember reading Forever in junior high. That was so scandalous! 😉
I think it’s great that she asked. With all that these kids are exposed to these days, it’s refreshing to hear that this still happens. I’m a lover of books and I’m raising my daughter to be the same. Hoping I have the same experience as you.
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Like others have said it shows a lot that she is able to have open conversations with you. Talking about sex with our kids as honestly as we can sets them up to make responsible choices in the long run. The Boy just turned 14 and he is driving me crazy with his hormone talks.